The action of smiling.

People ask me why am I so smiley? Why am I always smiling? How is it possible that I am never sad ? And they say that it is impossible. So it is! I am not always smiling, I am not always happy! I have my deep moments too, although when I am sad I do not hide it from anyone, not even from myself. I always bring this smile on my face because I do not like being sad, a smile is trap against sadness. Why would you be unhappy with everything? Is no worth it, trust me!!!

Smiling is such an easy thing to do that I do not know why there are so many grumpy people out there. Life is short and a smile will not kill anyone. It's so nice when you are walking and a random person smiles at you. A smile can be a way of communicating many things you want, and most times a smile can substitute plenty words, even if you do not have anything to say a smile will answer any question and will clear any doubts.

Smile because it is smiling that you will attract happiness, good vibrations and nice people around you. It is also smiling that you might make someone else's day happier, change someone else's humour and change the ambient. Not that I am saying you should become MISS SIMPATHY. But tell me, what can the power of a smile not do? I cannot see an answer. Smile and make of it a habit. Smile because when you smile the world smiles for you. Smile even if you know that you probably will not get one in return, you might do! We never know.

People might take you as stupid or they might take you as a good person. When you smile you make the difference. However, like for everything, there are limits. One should not smile at someone else's weaknesses, troubles or mistakes. There are times to smile and times to be serious, like everything has its good and bad side, a smile has it too.

“Smiling is good. But smiling at everything is desperation.”

Bianca B.

Words are loaded pistols.

Words are like bullets.
Target is your knowledge of how your words will be taken.

Everybody might have once heard that quote: " One should think twice before saying something."

Well, people sometimes don't think before they are saying something, and they just shoot it on your face without knowing how you are going to take it and even worse, without caring if it will hurt you or not. Words are like loaded pistols, once you pull the trigger, that's it! However, if you know your target it might not damaged as much as a bullet would. By target I mean: How you are going to say something and how you can expect this person to react from it. But if you don't know your target it can hurt, just like bullets.

I do not want to state here that you should not talk certain things, because you should talk about everything. It is not what you are going to say, it is HOW you are going to say.
Just like patience, manner is a virtue too. It does not depend on your economic class, the clothes you are wearing or how well educated you are. It comes with character, and how you build your personality. People tend to take things for its first impression, and if you give them a bad one, it is quite likely that they are not going to talk to you again, unless they HAVE to. You are what you say! So, how you say things will show them your personality straight away. For example: You have a complain to make about your food being cold when you got served, let's say you've been waiting it for a while and when it finally came it was cold. If you shout at the waitress, she will take you as rude person, and is quite likely that she will not be nice with you at all. But if you talk to her nicely and explain the whole situation, is quite likely that she will do her best to make your dinner worth that night. So it is not what you say, it's how you say.

I have always been adept to “talk things trough”, even if you know that it may not be a good thing for someone to hear, we always have to be careful with the way we say things. If you have something bad or inconvenient to say, try to say it in the best way possible. Everything is about communication and for every action there will be a reaction. If you speak loudly and in a rude manner with someone, how likely is this person going to react from it? Loudly and rude too. Unless this person has a good self-control. When you have a good self-control and does not easily get influenced by someone else's bad humour, you can turn things around by showing them that there is no need to be like that. However, I do know it is difficult but we can always try. Try to peace yourself down and let the others burst. Doing it you are showing them that there is no need for shouting, rudeness or argument when you can talk thing trough instead.

Nowadays people are rushing around thinking of their own time and their own commitments that when it comes to communication, they are lacking skills for that. They do not know how to complain in a good manner, they do no know how to apologise when they have mistaken, they do not know how to ask favours, they do not know how to thank. Is that why the world is becoming so cold? Or is that only a thing of my head? Do I think that because I like people and because even if someone huts me I am always nice at them? Do I say those things because I want to sound nice? NO!!! I'm just trying to show people that the world could be way better if we knew how to talk to each other, if we knew how to express things in a better way, if we had more patience and less rush!

“You may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one. I hope someday you can join us, and the world would be as one...” (Imagine- John Lennon)

Bianca B.

Release it! Libere!

Release your emotions whenever you want. We must not repress them!

Cry, laugh, dance, jump, run...what's important is to be happy and not care about what the others will think or say. People criticise others happiness anyway. Anything we do can be criticised, but it just depends on whether you should give it a damn or not!

We should only be ashamed of killing, stealing and causing harm to others. Because that is a REAL shame! And no be happy, laugh out loud, dance in the rain, make funny faces, roll down a hill, do somersaults on your bed, sing in the shower, play silly games or do silly things!

Want to jump in the puddle? Do it!
Want to run down the hill? Do it!
Want to roll on the grass? Do it!
Want to hug your colleague? Do it!
Want to dance in the rain? Do it!
Want to slide down the handrail? Do it!
Want to eat 5 scoops of strawberry ice cream and get all dirty? Do it!
Want to sing at the karaoke bar, even though you know that your voice is terrible? Do it!
Want to stand up and dance, in a restaurant? Do it!
Want to play along with your children in the soft play area but you are afraid of what people will think? Just do it!

If you really want to do something, DO IT!!!!

Life is too short for the happy one and long for the grumpy ones! So...Break the rules,  forgive quickly,  kiss slowly,  hug with pleasure,  laugh wildly,  put a smile in someone's face, do what you want when you want! And go to hell this grumpy people that don't know how to express their feelings and desires just because someone else think they can judge you!  As long as I am concerned ones life belongs to themselves and it is up to them to do of it what they want...



People have a habit of criticizing everything, to judge everything. Who are we to do that? Nobody can Judge anybody! The sun rises for everyone....

I am serious at times just to try to get someone to take me seriously. Well, that's one thing! Sometimes you have to do that. But this has nothing to do with repressed feelings or anything like that!
A smile can change the course of a conversation/argument for better. A single smile can do so many things that I can't even state them here!

Doing what you want and not caring for what people will think is good. But of course there is a limit for everything. For example: You're not going to slap your friend's bum just because you want. Or  you're not going to work on your pyjamas just because you feel like it! To everything there is common sense!




"They think I am crazy because I am different, I laugh at them because they are all the same!" (Bob Marley).



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Libere suas emoções sempre que quiser. Não devemos reprimi-las!


Chore, ria, dançe, pule, corra ... o que é importante é ser feliz e não se preocupar com o que os outros vão pensar ou dizer. As pessoas criticam a felicidade dos outros de qualquer maneira. Tudo o que fazemos pode ser criticado, mas só depende de você, se você deve dar-lhe a menor atenção ou não!


Só deveriamos ter vergonha de matar, roubar e causar dano a outro. Porque isso sim é uma verdadeira vergonha! E não ser feliz, rir alto, dançar na chuva, fazer caretas, rolar morro abaixo, fazer cambalhotas na cama, cantar no chuveiro, jogar jogos bobos ou fazer coisas bobas!


Quero pular na poça? Faça!
Quero correr para baixo do morro? Faça!
Quer rolar na grama? Faça!
Quero abraçar seu colega? Faça!
Quero dançar na chuva? Faça!
Quero deslizar para baixo o corrimão? Faça!
Quero comer 5 colheres de sorvete de morango e obter todo sujo? Faça!
Quero cantar no bar de karaoke, mesmo que você saiba que sua voz é terrível? Faça!
Quer se levantar e dançar, em um restaurante? Faça!
Quero jogar junto com seus filhos na área de jogo macia, mas você tem medo de que as pessoas vão pensar? Apenas faça isso!


Se você realmente quer fazer algo, faça!!


A vida é muito curta para os felizes e muito longa para os mal-humorados! Então...quebre as regras, perdoe rapidamente, beije lentamente, abraçe com prazer, ria descontroladamente, coloque um sorriso no rosto de alguém, faça o que quiser, quando quiser! E que vá para o inferno esse povo mal-humorado que não sabem como expressar seus sentimentos e desejos só porque eles acham que alguém  pode julgá-lo! Até onde eu sei a vida pertence a nos mesmos e cabe a nos fazer dele o que queremos ...


As pessoas têm o hábito de criticar tudo, de julgar tudo. Quem somos nós para fazer isso? Ninguém pode julgar ninguém! O sol nasce para todos ....


Eu às vezes sou séria apenas para tentar fazer com que alguém me leve á sério. Bem, isso é uma coisa! Às vezes você tem que fazer isso. 
Mas isso não tem nada a ver com sentimentos reprimindo ou qualquer coisa assim! 
Um sorriso pode mudar o curso de uma conversa / discussão para melhor. Um único sorriso pode fazer tantas coisas que eu não posso mesmo indicá-las aqui!


Fazer o que quiser e não se importar com o que as pessoas vão pensar é bom. Mas é claro que há um limite para tudo. Por exemplo: Você não vai dar um tapa na bunda da sua amiga só porque você quer! Ou, você não irá para o trabalho em seu pijama só porque isso lhe apetece! Para tudo se há o bom senso!




"Eles acham que eu sou louco só porque eu sou diferente, eu riu deles porque eles são todos iguais!" (Bob Marley).

Collecting Stones. Coletando pedras.

Every difficulty/problem in life it's like a stone and your life path it's like a road.

We all either came through, or will go through a difficulty in our lives. Like we were walking on the road and suddenly there is a stone. Sometimes, we were not expecting it to be there, and because we were no expecting it to be there, we end up stumbling in it and it is sore, so sore that it makes us fall down.  This stone means a problem that you are going through, that brought you down and made you sad.

You now have two choices: You can either stay there, suffering and letting life go through you or you can gather strenght, stand up, get over it and what's more collect the stone and keep it with you. Once you've done that for the first time you will know how to do it again. It is not easy to get over a problem in life, but everyone should try to do it one day.

Why collect the stone once you overcame a problem? Because you will keep the road clear, showing that you proudly overcame a problem on your life and who is coming behind you will see that you're trying to run your life smoothly.

After you been through it all, overcame it and kept the stone with you,  you'll easily see that on you way in this road you will come across many other stones. Some of them you will be aware that they wil be there, like when you have mistaken and know what the consequences will be. These are another kind of stones (difficulties and problems) but they are still just a stone and it can also be difficult to overcome. However, once you did overcome it , do collect the stone and keep it with you.


You'll feel, eventually, that your luggage will become heavier and heavier throughout your journey and there will be many days when you will feel like giving up, like leaving your journey and living a dull life. But be strong, raise your head, look forward and keep walking.
One day you will see that all those stones you've been collecting and all the strenght you've been been making to carry on won't be in vain. They will be useful for you to build your castle. A castle of triumph and proud. A castle that will be build from all your pain, effort, apprenticeship and recovery.

"Life gives you all the tools for you to build a good future, it just depends on how you see them."

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Toda dificuldade/problema na vida é como uma pedra, e seu caminho de vida é como uma estrada.

Todos nós, quer veio, ou iremos passar por uma dificuldade em nossas vidas. É como se estivéssemos caminhando na estrada e de repente há uma pedra. Às vezes a gente não espera que isso estivesse lá, e porque não estávamos esperando que isso estivesse lá, acabamos tropeçando nela e é dolorido, tão dolorido que nos faz cair. Esta pedra significa um problema que você está passando, que trouxe você para baixo e fez-lhe triste.

Agora você tem duas opções: Ou você pode ficar lá, sofrendo e deixando a vida passar através de você, ou você pode reunir forças, levantar-se, superar isso, e o que é mais colher a pedra e mantê-la com você. Uma vez que você tiver feito isso pela primeira vez você saberá como fazê-lo novamente. Não é fácil superar um problema na vida, mas todos deveriamos tentar fazê-lo um dia.

Por que recolher a pedra uma vez que você superou um problema? Porque você vai manter a estrada limpa, mostrando que você orgulhosamente superou um problemaem sua vida e quem está vindo atrás vai ver que você está tentando executar a sua vida sem sobressaltos.


Depois que você passou por tudo isso, venceu e manteve a pedra com você, você vai ver facilmente que em seu caminho neste caminho você vai encontrar muitas outras pedras. Alguns deles você vai estar cientes de que wil estar lá, como quando você tem errado e sabe o que as conseqüências serão. Estes são um outro tipo depedras (dificuldades e problemas), mas eles ainda são apenas uma pedra e ele também pode ser difícil de superar. No entanto, uma vez que você superou isso, colha a pedra e mantenha-a com voce.


Você vai sentir, finalmente, que a sua bagagem se tornará mais e mais pesada durante a viagem, e haverá muitos dias em que você vai sentir vontade de desistir, deixar a sua jornada e viver uma vida monótona. Mas seja forte, levante a cabeça, olhe para frente e continue caminhando.
Um dia você vai ver que todas aquelas pedras que você estava coletando, e toda a força que você fez  para continuar não será em vão. Elas serão úteis para você construir seu castelo. Um castelo de triunfo e orgulho. Um castelo que irá ser construído a partir de todas as suas dores, esforço de aprendizagem e recuperação.


"A vida dá-lhe todas as ferramentas para você construir um bom futuro, só depende de como você vê-los."


(Bianca B.)

Feeling pain, feeling happiness.

Today I was thinking about pain. Yeah, pain. Not physical pain but moral pain, hopeless pain, the pain of the heart, the pain that when not described by the mouth, flows through the eyes.
I was also thinking about happiness. Yeah happiness! Not physical pleasure but moral happiness, "cheerful happiness", the happiness of the moment, the happiness that can be translated by the wideness of a smile or the by brightness of the eyes.

So I decided to balance them and got into a personal conclusion: Have you EVER realised that we can feel the same pain over and over again but not the same pleasure? This makes happiness more rare!
I mean, we can go through the same pain, like the pain of a lost parent, the pain of the regret, the pain of a lost love, the pain of missing a person and it will always feel like the same and we can go through it over and over again that it will feel the same. Of course that one can be more intense then the other, but not the same pleasure.
For example, I tell a joke to a big group of friends, the first time everybody laughs, then I tell the same joke again and not all of them laugh, so I tell it again and just one laughs. Laughing is a pleasure, is a kind of a momentary happiness, but you do not feel the same pleasure over and over again and that is what makes happiness more rare!  I think that is why we have to go through both: HAPPINESS and PAIN/ SADNESS, otherwise how could we know the taste of happiness if we have never been sad or feeling in pain? I doubt we would know the difference... Also the pain, the mistakes and sadness, at some point, make us grow stronger, wiser and prepared for the "real life" that we have ahead of us on our everyday, they are the teachers of the life. Teaching us in the worst but remarkable way, a way that is painful but will never be forgotten. Erring is a natural human condition, but persisting on the error is stupidity.


"Without pain there is no perfect word, as without happiness there is no point on living."

Is it worth thinking? ............... Vele a pena pensar?

There are certain things that one should think twice before thinking of thinking of it. 


Sometimes we catch our mind thinking of things we wish we were not thinking, but when we last expect : THERE THEY ARE! Tormenting our mind.
When I say one should think twice before thinking of thinking of something, I mean it. I just caught myself thinking like that and before I could start to search this memory I thought: DO NOT THINK OF IT! Like a warning sound and seconds after it I made myself think of something else instead.

I'll give you some scenarios for you to be able to understand what I mean:

1- You are seeing someone nice and you enjoy this person's company.  When you less expect you are thinking of this person every now and again, then you start to make plans, create expectations, thinking of what he/she thinks of you, thinking of how you wish you would stick together and etc. By there you wish you were not thinking like this, deluding your own self. Fair enough, but you already know that you cannot create expectations, then you try to freeze your heart to not think of this person, trying to avoid another disillusion and think of something else instead. Our mind is very tricky, when we think of a person/event too much it no longer inhabits our mind but our heart, and it is very difficult to forget someone that lives in the heart. So... WHY THINK LIKE THIS?!

2-You could start to think of a failure that happen in the past, a failure that had hurt you quite badly. Seconds after reaching that event on your mind you start punishing yourself thinking that you could had done it differently, regretting all of what have happened, feeling the pain pinching again. Fair enough, but you already know that it was wrong, you already know that there is nothing that will take you back in time to change it and you also know that although you can't change what was done, you at least have the power to not let it happen in the future, so... WHY THINKING OF IT AGAIN?!

3-You could start to think of a person that broke your heart, you loved someone that left you. You start to think of the good moments, of the silly arguments, of how you were good together, of all you had done for her/him then your heart starts to cry and this unhealed wound bleeds again. Fair enough, but you are aware that she/he is gone, that the time has gone by and things have changed, that she/he might have someone else and that think of all of it just makes you sadder, so WHY THINKING OF IT?!

I could give you so many scenarios today, but I rather let you think of some scenarios of your own and then think of what I am saying above and below.

There are many things that we could avoid thinking of, things that we already know that is no worth thinking of again, or in the same way you did before. But it is worth thinking of the result that it all brought for you and use it for your own sake today and tomorrow. If I could do it, I believe you can. Because at least we can control what goes in our mind before she/he/it goes in our heart.

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Há certas coisas que nos deveriamos pensar duas vezes antes de pensar em pensarmos nisso.

Às vezes pegamos nossa mente penssando em coisas que não estávamos querendo pensar, mas quando menos esperamos: LÁ ESTÃO ELES! Atormentando nossa mente.
Quando eu digo que deveriamos pensar duas vezes antes de pensarmos em pensar em algo, eu quero dizer isso.
Eu acabei de me pegar pensando assim e antes que eu pudesse começar a buscar essa memória, eu pensei: NÃO PENSE NISSO! Como um som de aviso e segundos depois que eu me fiz pensando em outra coisa ao invés disso.

Vou te dar alguns cenários para você ser capaz de entender o eu quero dizer:

1 - Você está vendo alguém legal e você desfrutar da companhia dessa pessoa. Quando você menos espera você está pensando nessa pessoa agora e cada vez, então você começa a fazer planos, criar expectativas, pensando no que ele/ela pensa de você, pensando o quanto você gostaria que ficassem juntos e etc.  Por ai você já queria que você não estivesse pensando assim, iludindo seu próprio eu. Tudo bem, mas você já sabe que você não pode criar expectativas, então você tenta congelar seu coração para não pensar nesta pessoa, tentando evitar outra desilusão e pensar em outra coisa em seu lugar. Nossa mente é muito complicada, quando pensamos muito em um evento/pessoa já não mais habita nossa mente, mas nosso coração, E é muito difícil esquecer alguém/algo que vive no coração. Então ... POR QUE PENSAR ASSIM?!


2-Você poderia começar a pensar em uma falha que aconteceu no passado, uma falha que o magou muito mal. Segundos depois de atingir esse evento em sua mente, você começa a se punir pensando que você poderia ter feito isso diferente, lamentando tudo o que aconteceu, sentindo a dor apertando novamente. Justo o suficiente, mas você já sabe que isso foi errado, você já sabe que não há nada que o levará de volta no tempo para mudar isso e você também sabe que, embora você não pode mudar o que foi feito, você pelo menos tem o poder de não deixar que isso aconteça no futuro, então ... POR QUE PENSAR NISSO OUTRA VEZ?

3-Você poderia começar a pensar em uma pessoa que quebrou seu coração, você amou alguém que te deixou. Você começa a pensar no bons momentos, os argumentos bobos, de como vocês eram bem juntos, de tudo o que você fez por ela ele, então, seu coração começa a chorar e issa  ferida não curada sangra novamente. Justo o suficiente, mas você está ciente de que ela/ele se foi, que o tempo passou e as coisas mudaram, que ele/ela pode ter outra pessoa e que pensar em tudo isso só faz você mais triste, ENTAO PORQUE PENSAR NISSO?

Eu poderia dar-lhes tantos cenários hoje, mas eu prefiro deixar que voces pensem em alguns próprios cenários, e depois pensar sobre o que estou dizendo acima e abaixo.

Há muitas coisas que poderíamos evitar de pensar, coisas que já sabemos que não vale a pena pensar sobre isso de novo, ou da mesma forma que você fez antes. Mas vale a pena pensar do resultado que tudo isso traouxe para você e usá-los para seu próprio bem, hoje e amanhã. Se eu pude fazer isso, eu acredito que você pode. Porque pelo menos nós podemos controlar o que se passa em nossa mente antes de que ele/ela/isso chegue em nosso coração.

Bianca Babini.

Understand x Accept.

Some people say: 'I understand it.' and some people say: 'I accept it.'

Can both mean something when they are not connected? Can you actually understand something but not accept it? Or accept it without understanding it?
Well, I think one can understand something and not accept it, for example: Death penalty. You can understand about death penalty and not accept it. But you can't accept or agree with death penalty without knowing what it actually is.

If I don't understand about a subject that is being discussed in a table I don't usually give my opinion, I say : I don't talk about what I don't know. It's pointless to talk about something you don't know.
To accept things without knowing it it's stupidity, lack of personality and much more which I will leave you to judge... But wait a minute, we can't judge! Yes, that's right. But we can express our opinions.
I'm not judging anyone I'm actually not judging at all!  I'm expressing an opinion based on nothing but my thoughts and as they are mine I can do whatever I want if them, though I still have to understand what I am saying in order to make everybody else understand and accept it or not.

Now, it's up to you whether you understand and accept what I am saying or understand but not accept what I am saying. However, if you don't understand any of it, I would advise you not to opt. As I said in my point of view one can't accept something that's not understandable, it's intellectually impossible! Well, that's what I believe.



“I do not have much patience with a thing of beauty that must be explained to be understood. If it does need additional interpretation by someone other than the creator, then I question whether it has fulfilled its purpose.”


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”Entender x Concordar.


Algumas pessoas dizem: "eu entendo." e algumas pessoas dizem: 'Eu concordo. "


Pode ambos significar algo quando não estão conectados? Você pode realmente entender algo, mas não caoncordar? Ou concordar sem entender?
Bem, eu acho que se pode compreender uma coisa e não concordar, por exemplo: Pena de morte. Você pode entender sobre a pena de morte e não aceitá-la. Mas não se pode aceitar ou concordar com a pena de morte sem saber o que realmente é.


Se eu não entender sobre um assunto que está sendo discutido em uma mesa eu não costumo dar minha opinião, eu digo: eu não falo sobre o que eu não sei. É inútil falar sobre algo que você não conhece.
Para concordar com as coisas sem entender é estupidez, falta de personalidade e muito mais que eu vou deixar você julgar ... Mas espere um minuto, não podemos julgar! Sim, isso é certo. Mas nós podemos expressar nossas opiniões.
Eu não estou julgando ninguém, na realidade eu não estou julgando de forma alguma! Eu estou expressando uma opinião baseada em nada, mas meus pensamentos, e como eles são meus eu posso fazer o que eu quiser com eles, embora eu ainda tenho que entender o que eu estou dizendo para fazer todo mundo entender e/ou não concordar.


Agora, cabe a você se você entender e concordar com o que estou dizendo ou entende, mas não aceitar o que estou dizendo. No entanto, se você não entende nada disso, eu aconselho você a não optar. Como eu disse, no meu ponto de vista não se pode aceitar algo que não é compreensível, é intelectualmente impossível! Bem, isso é o que eu acredito.




"Eu não tenho muita paciência com uma coisa de beleza que devem ser explicadas para serem entendidas. Se ele precisa de interpretação adicional por alguém que não o criador, então eu questiono se ela cumpriu o seu objectivo. "